
“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
“Well said, teacher,” the man replied. “You are right in saying that God is one and there is no other but him. To love him with all your heart, with all your understanding and with all your strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself is more important than all burnt offerings and sacrifices.”
Mark 12: 28-33
One of the worst labels that anyone can have put upon them in America (or most of the West) today is “intolerant.” Whether towards race, gender, or sexual orientation, being labeled intolerant is so detrimental that former President George W. Bush called the worst moment of his Presidency being called a “racist” by rapper Kanye West.
On the surface, tolerance is not a bad idea. Simply put, tolerance is accepting beliefs that you do not agree with or dislike. Sort of a prerequisite for survival in a country (America) that is nearly as divided as it was 150 years ago.
However, tolerance is not a biblical idea. It is not a biblical concept; it is not even a biblical suggestion. Nowhere in scripture does God or His people preach the current American Gospel of tolerance. It is simply not there.
When I was a senior in High School, I was assigned a song from the Broadway musical Rent to perform at my senior vocal recital. At the time Rent was not yet the huge phenom it is now; although it had already won the Tony for best Musical, it was still relatively unknown in my Houston suburb. I had little knowledge of the production, no awareness of the content, but I did like the theme song- Seasons of Love.
I liked the theme song for two reasons- first, the main question presented in the lyrics- (How do we measure a lifetime?) fit in with my own longing to find some sort of purpose and understanding in my own journey, and two, the title reminded me of one of my favorite songs- “Seasons in the Sun” by Terry Jacks.
The song “Seasons in the Sun” was special for one reason- it always reminded me of my Uncle Johnny. I know this is a film blog, but if you allow me to digress, I will connect everything in the end- I promise.
My Uncle Johnny was my mom’s youngest brother and he was the largest character I ever met. His job, if that’s what you could call it, was performing a cross-dressing variety act in which he did spot on impressions of Dolly Parton and Cher. And yes, he was gay.
However to a six year old, this meant absolutely nothing. All I knew is that my favorite Uncle had a “special” friend who had the same name as me. Cool.
But then my mom told me he was going to die.
When I was six years old, AIDS was as real to me as cooties. I heard about it on the news, I guess some kids at school made jokes about it, but it simply didn’t matter. My Uncle was still my Uncle and although he was sick, I still got to laugh and joke and hang out with him. He still gave me Christmas gifts and birthday presents and all of the amazing things good Uncles were supposed to do. He was still my Uncle Johnny and I got to see him all the time.
But all of a sudden he stopped coming around. Like most kids I thought it was my fault, I thought he had gotten mad at me or that I had done something wrong. My mom and grandmother, whom I lived with at the time, would speak about him, but always in hushed tones and in the corners of the house. I did not find out until much later that my grandfather, another man I idolized, had disowned Johnny and told him to never step foot in his house again.
We moved away and I only got to visit with Uncle Johnny through phone calls, but I’ll never forget him. He did pass away eventually, some nine years after first contracting AIDS, and after he had become an activist for gay rights and AIDS awareness. And when he died, I cried. It was the first time someone I had really loved passed away.
At the time of my Uncle’s death I was a much different person. I had become involved in a church youth group and found myself hanging around with a crowd of people who openly expressed disgust at homosexuals. I never really spoke up about it, although I wish now that I did. I would listen to church sermons where preachers spoke about how God punished Sodom and Gomorrah for their evil ways and that allowing gays to be in the military or marry would condemn a modern America to fire and brimstone and damnation.
I was confused. I loved my Uncle and the memories of the time we spent together. But I was being told that he was an awful sinner and that he was wicked.
Fortunately for me, God would bring me some clarity- in the form of a 5’7” blond.
I remember the first time I went to visit Jaime at her house, I noticed a large Rent poster behind her bed. I made some passing comment about how I sang a song from that musical in High School and that I had heard it was a good show but I had never seen it. She went on to tell me all about the musical- how it changed her life, how she loved every minute of it, and how the message and the music was something that she thought everyone should hear and experience.
Unfortunately we didn’t have the money to travel to New York to see the show and it wasn’t coming to Houston for a couple more years. Fortunately Hollywood, as it does with all fads, had already started pre-production on a movie version and I would only have to wait for that to release.
We saw the movie on Thanksgiving Day (when it released) at a movie theater in Humble on the way back from spending the holiday with my mom and dad. In fact, I was so excited to see it that I forewent my annual holiday tradition of cheering for whatever team was playing against the Dallas Cowboys.
Let me be clear- I have seen the musical live now, and the movie does not compare (then again, they never do). But I was still moved by the message of the movie-which, it struck me, was an oddly Biblical one.
The musical and movie are based on Puccini’s famous opera, La Boheme. Like La Boheme, Rent follows a group of struggling artists trying to survive and breakthrough in the commercial epicenter of their time (La Boheme is set in 19th century Paris, Rent in 90’s New York). And the characters in both the opera and the musical are suffering from a deadly disease- tuberculosis in La Boheme and AIDS in Rent.
The message of Rent, it will surprise you to know- considering the content of the show (Transvestites, the gay community, the starving liberal artists) is not one of tolerance. The message, as evidenced by their theme song is love.
Let’s face it. Despite the fact that Christ’s primary message to us as Christians is to love God and to love others, we’ve done a pretty terrible job of both. The message of tolerance that America preaches is a compromise- everyone wants to be loved, but since we suck at doing that, they’ll settle for being tolerated.
Why? Because tolerance is fairly easy. We look away or ignore, or think quietly to ourselves. We smile and nod when we meet an outcast, and usually give some polite comment. We tolerate because it’s easy. We don’t love because to sincerely care for someone that we don’t agree with is difficult. But it is exactly what Jesus did when He loved us.
Let me be clear- I am not a tolerant person- I believe in the Bible. I believe the Bible is clear on issues of homosexuality and premarital sex. I believe the Bible is clear on drunkenness and not paying your taxes. And I believe the Bible is clear on obesity and gluttony too- although it’s funny that you don’t hear many messages from the church pulpit about those.
I also believe that my job is not to judge those who live in those lifestyles. My job is to show them God loves them (and me) in spite of our flaws. My job is to be God’s representation of love and hope on earth. My job is not to change them. My job is to love. God will handle the rest.
It strikes me that Christ would be appalled at the church today- we look nothing like His ragtag band of outcasts. I had a college professor once say that the smartest thing that Satan ever did was convince Constantine to make Christianity the mainstream religion of ancient Rome. How much more loving would Christians be to outcasts, (by outcasts I mean gays, other races, the homeless, the poor, those that vote opposite of us, Muslims, Buddhists, etc.) if we knew what it was like to be one?
One of the things I enjoy most about living in a Muslim country is that it is not easy to be Christian here. I work with colleagues who openly criticize my choice of religion. I live in a culture that flat out rejects my foundational beliefs and makes it hard to practice them (if you are a Christian and are reading this, please pray for our Pastor- the country does not want to grant him a work permit). I am judged every time I mention that I am going to church. There are times when I feel as though it would be easier to love God in “the closet.”
And yet like the outcasts of America I refuse to be silent. Just like the characters in Rent, I want to be loved. I don’t want to be tolerated like a parent tolerates a child, all the while thinking that they will one day “wise up” and learn. I want to be loved. And God demands that we live our lives loving others in just that way.
Ultimately, I realized that it was okay to love my Uncle Johnny- God did.
Let me be quick to clarify that tolerance is not biblical because tolerance is rooted in the idea that we “put up with” or “look away” from the mistakes in others. God does not operate that way. He looks at us, knowing completely what we have done wrong, will do wrong, and even what we think about doing wrong, and He chooses to love us anyway. That’s what love is- looking at someone for who they are and caring for them anyway.
So the next time you read an article about another gay teen who has committed suicide in the US because they feel like an outcast, ask yourself this: Have we failed to love another person that God loves? Have we failed to make a creation of God feel valued? Have we failed to live out our calling?
Have we failed God because we failed to love?
At the end of Rent every character has changed- and they have been changed by the love of one character- Angel. That is the power that love has. That is the power that one truly loving person can have on those around them. And that power is what Christ so desperately wants to use in us.